Keeping Your Ex At A Distance

I recently had an interesting conversation with a friend of mine who is having trouble keeping his ex at a distance. His ex doesn’t seem to understand the concept of breaking up and she has become a nuisance to him and his NEW relationship. She constantly calls to have small talk and to make matters worse, she revealed her goal of trying to mend things between the two to hopefully get him back. I understand she might be going through … Continue reading

Falling in Love

Science does not play a big role in the subject of love. Some researchers recognize love as a reality while others consider it to be a fantasized construct to give a meaningless life meaning. The renown Harvard sociologist, Pitirim Sorokin, in his book The Ways and Power of Love explains: “Sensate minds disbelieve in the power of love. It appears to us something illusionary. We call it self-deception, the opiate of people’s minds, idealistic bosh, unscientific delusion.” My post focuses … Continue reading

Guest Blog: Never lose yourself in your relationship

When we are in a healthy relationship it feels like the best thing in the world. Having someone there that we can confide in, and share special memories with makes us feel like we’re on cloud nine. But, how healthy is the relationship? One thing I’ve noticed with relationships is one person tends to forget about him or herself. They get so caught up in making their partner happy, that they stop doing what makes them happy. There is nothing … Continue reading

Deception

In my post 10 Things That Love Is, I listed Honesty  as a representation of love. We all want to believe that the person we are in a romantic relationship with is completely honest with us. However, Mark L Knapp, a renown author and professor of Communications, states that it is not uncommon that people even in close relationships are likely to be in situations in which honesty will not be practiced. Believe it or not, deception plays a complex role … Continue reading

Befriend your Ex through social media…Yes/No?

Social media is evolving and its obvious that it now has a strong impact on our romantic relationships. Whether it’s in a positive or negative way, the effects of social media has definitively changed the way we experience our romantic relationships. Social media has facilitated the intertwining of our past relationships with our current ones. You are probably wondering what I mean by that. I’m referring to the easy accessibility social media gives us to our EXs. With that being … Continue reading

Financial Infidelity

Have you ever heard of the phrase “Whats yours is mine and whats mine is mine?” This type of thinking is the stem of many financial problems in relationships. Many people in relationships adapt the idea “I work hard for my money so I do with it as I please.” However, not telling your partner what you do with your money is what I refer to as Financial Infidelity. We are seriously living in a time when both men and … Continue reading

The Perfect Relationship

Perfect=free of flaws, mistakes, and shortcomings; An ideal situation. Something perceived as perfect is relative and subject to the eye of the beholder. Therefore, what is perfect for me maybe not be perfect for you. Since something perfect is completely dependent on individual’s opinion, when used to describe a general standard for a relationship, it is completely irrational. Now that the definition of perfect is established, allow me to reiterate that a perfect relationship does not exist. “Tell me something … Continue reading

Guest Blog: How to keep your relationship fresh

If you’ve been in a relationship for a number of years, things may have fallen into a routine, and you may find that the passion that was there when the relationship was new may be lacking. You can easily take for granted the relationship you have, so here are a few hints and tips to inject some life back into your relationship. Keep In Touch With Each Other Whether you’re at work, or out with friends it’s always good to … Continue reading

To Forgive or To Forget?

When someone you love hurts you, it is challenging to know how to manage and cope with the hurt. Do you forgive or do you forget the person? Many of us have been faced with this situation and have ended up in a place of confusion and fear. If you forgive, you chose to erase the mistake and hope that things will get better. When you forgive you run a risk of staying in a situation where things will stay … Continue reading

The Coexistence of Seduction and Lust

Men should be very careful in relationships with other women. Special precaution should be given to women in platonic friendships. This type of relationship can be as hazardous as a man’s relationship with a provocative woman. Where is the danger in a female-male platonic friendship? The danger lies in a combination of men’s weakness for women and women’s power to seduce. Robert Greene, in The Art of Seduction (2003), states that seduction is the most subtle, elusive, and effective form … Continue reading